Comments on: Soul Kitchens http://www.contentgoeshere.com/2003/06/21/soul-kitchens/ I am a camera. Tue, 03 Jul 2007 04:26:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: brevity http://www.contentgoeshere.com/2003/06/21/soul-kitchens/comment-page-1/#comment-45 brevity Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.contentgoeshere.com/?p=6#comment-45 I don't think having a hangout is symptomatic of anything. I for one am envious that you have such a place. You've derived a lot of wisdom and a repertoire of interesting stories from your hangouts. For better or worse, you didn't pledge yourself to someone eternally at a kegger when you were 21. Maybe it's both good and bad? I'm like you; I've never had a decent long-term relationship in my adult life, for various reasons. It feels like I've missed out on much of what being young was supposed to be. An ex-date of mine has *only* had long term relationships (with the exception of a brief summer rebound period, when I met her.) But she regards a lot of her life as lost time too. She has tried to make me see that relationships are not all wine and roses, there's a great deal lost. Think of all the sucky jobs you couldn't have left. Or the career changing you did. Think of coming home from a concert to hear your SO deride your interest in popular music as childish. Of not being able to zip up to Vancouver on a whim. All that for someone who you might not even like 10 years later. Your past is what made you who you are now, and dammit but I think you've got a hell of a lot more than you know. I can already hear the defenses snapping up to reject that, but try to consider it anyway? In time, you might learn to see this period of your life as not being as wasted as you thought it was. I don’t think having a hangout is symptomatic of anything. I for one am envious that you have such a place. You’ve derived a lot of wisdom and a repertoire of interesting stories from your hangouts.

For better or worse, you didn’t pledge yourself to someone eternally at a kegger when you were 21. Maybe it’s both good and bad?

I’m like you; I’ve never had a decent long-term relationship in my adult life, for various reasons. It feels like I’ve missed out on much of what being young was supposed to be.

An ex-date of mine has *only* had long term relationships (with the exception of a brief summer rebound period, when I met her.) But she regards a lot of her life as lost time too.

She has tried to make me see that relationships are not all wine and roses, there’s a great deal lost. Think of all the sucky jobs you couldn’t have left. Or the career changing you did. Think of coming home from a concert to hear your SO deride your interest in popular music as childish. Of not being able to zip up to Vancouver on a whim. All that for someone who you might not even like 10 years later.

Your past is what made you who you are now, and dammit but I think you’ve got a hell of a lot more than you know. I can already hear the defenses snapping up to reject that, but try to consider it anyway?

In time, you might learn to see this period of your life as not being as wasted as you thought it was.

]]> By: halfjack http://www.contentgoeshere.com/2003/06/21/soul-kitchens/comment-page-1/#comment-46 halfjack Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.contentgoeshere.com/?p=6#comment-46 Unless you spent it in front of the TV, it's rare that anyone wastes their life to any degree. Sure, you take different branches through the decision tree, but unlike most role-playing video games, you can't visit everything. Even more importantly, most time spent with other humans is certainly not wasted, so a hangout can save you from sitting on your can alone and really wasting time. Stay out of jail, stay away from the TV, keep talking to humans, and you can't possibly be wasting anything. Hmm, even jail might be turned into something useful (if you like weightlifting and learning more about successful breaking and entering). Unless you spent it in front of the TV, it’s rare that anyone wastes their life to any degree. Sure, you take different branches through the decision tree, but unlike most role-playing video games, you can’t visit everything. Even more importantly, most time spent with other humans is certainly not wasted, so a hangout can save you from sitting on your can alone and really wasting time.

Stay out of jail, stay away from the TV, keep talking to humans, and you can’t possibly be wasting anything. Hmm, even jail might be turned into something useful (if you like weightlifting and learning more about successful breaking and entering).

]]> By: Alexander http://www.contentgoeshere.com/2003/06/21/soul-kitchens/comment-page-1/#comment-47 Alexander Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.contentgoeshere.com/?p=6#comment-47 What are you supposed to do when you've long since had your soul sucked away, or maybe it floated off, but is gone, and your left to walk with this emptiness, like you always wore a watch but now cannot find the time to look at anyone, least of all yourself? David Byrne is always right. "I see all the people standing out there and I call that education." What are you supposed to do when you’ve long since had your soul sucked away, or maybe it floated off, but is gone, and your left to walk with this emptiness, like you always wore a watch but now cannot find the time to look at anyone, least of all yourself?

David Byrne is always right. “I see all the people standing out there and I call that education.”

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